Knowing your surroundings and your family are heavy contributors to your growth. If you know yourself, and your role, then things begin to shape how you work together as a family. Without any form of understanding people or assigning responsibility, we delve into a chaotic abyss that makes it difficult to shake. As you begin to understand yourself as a parent and an adult, you understand how you become the psychological counselor in your family. I am not a trained psychologist in any way, but this presents you understanding more basic concepts of personal and professional responsibility throughout your formation.
To understand the types of families, you have a nuclear family; a family of two parents and children. You have a single-parent home; one where either mom or dad runs the show. You have extended family; this is a unit that includes a combination of nuclear families. You also have a childless family (couple); this is a unit of two adults without kids. You have stepfamily; a combination of family that is unified through marriage. You also have grandparent family; a family headed by a grandparent figure or family that is running the household.
As you begin to understand each stage and family member, you will unfold a different perspective in dealing with stress and effective value to well-being. This includes making healthy habits for yourself and other family members. As you learn to cope with these different stressors, you will find a better means to work through difficulty and hardship so you can feel a lot of intrinsic value in how you support them. Each of the different household types include their own strengths and barriers. Knowing how you deal with each of these things will improve your place and understanding the other family members.
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Although we have different family types, people find their families adjust or grow over time.
Going from opportunity as a young couple, expanding your family, and finding new work, the life of a young adult has increased complexity. In each aspect, there are stages of life such as the teenager, the young adult, the young family, middle-age, older age, and retirement. As you understand your particular age, you can develop an awareness and direction of where you would like to take your career and/or expand your family. Skills developed as a child translate responsibility and develop essentials of each stage. However, people develop themselves through the younger years certainly shape the future they will inherit. Past experiences shape who you are in your character and how you work through challenges that life has to offer.
We can look at the traditional family model with two adults.
The following ideas identify who you are as a person in the home, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that who you are as a person defines the following characteristics. You may have a unique dynamic that works between a couple. The most important aspects a couple must ensure is how they feel comfortable, and that the both of you encourage each other to grow together. If you feel that there is a communication or responsibility shift, I would encourage you to speak with a counselor.
Wives bring more than just a relationship to their spouse. Their presence in the family provides nurture and comfort. Their focus and tenacity with their career and home make them valuable members supporting the overall goal of the family. As part of their relationship with their spouse, your focus and communication lay foundational needs for the time you spend in both places. In some cases, hobbies at home can release stress that was gathered in the day. During the industrial revolution in America, they were matrons of the household and ran the affairs of home. Other servants were under her care and focused on the estate and its’ care. You can reasonably negotiate that your home and design are things you can focus to make beautiful, control a schedule, and ensure a worry-free environment.
Husbands in their relationships provide to their spouses and support for their families. Their stereotypical role is designed as a protector, worker, initiator, and the overall leader in the family. Men and husbands use their ingrained aggressiveness to motivate and work. As a part of this stereotype, men start at younger ages and not as interrupted throughout their career making them more stable to their partners and the family. Their ability to communicate well with others and stay focused in bringing value to their company are great things they must do. Being that these things are outside of the home, they can help keep their family feel safe by having some kind of mental break between these two entities. This separation reduces anxiety on their children, less burden on the spouse, and creating a sense of safety and happiness. Husband must continue to display affection for their spouse, love their children, and peaceably resolve dispute.
Finding your family role as a parent
Mothers assume much burden on themselves when they struggle through insecurities of other family members. As a part of modeling better behavior for their children, establish a good pattern for yourself through making a schedule for yourself and make yourself work. This may mean that you will look for opportunities within your community, projects in your house to make it better, or finding an outlet that will reduce your overall stress. Knitting, playing music, reading, writing, and supporting your volunteer programs throughout the week. If you have young children, you will see their activities add onto your schedule. A tip to dealing with kids and your well-being may mean that you find a personal project or hobby to accomplish that work. Also, do not go it alone and voice your concern where you need help from a spouse, family member, or friend that is willing to relieve you of some things.
Father figures are exceptionally important to the social dynamic of a family. The younger they are, the more value they will create and lead within their family as they grow. They must determine a set values where they would like to foundationally support and lead their family in a more traditional sense. For those men who lack some guidance, it is important they quickly establish a father figure or a mentor in order to create the tight-knit nuclear family. Anyway, by understanding the stereotypical male, is that they have a focus on career in order to provide income to their families. They also see the importance of faith-based resiliency (a spiritual leader), continuous personal education in their craft or general knowledge (willingness to learn), a means to relax or have fun (vacation or fun hobbies), and know when to allow others to succeed.
As a spouse, you will find responsibility in ways to support your family for success. As a part of finding a soulmate, you ultimately find a dedicated business partner for life. In order to make that relationship work, the both of you must be open and honest about the way you manage your household. By utilizing this partnership, it requires the both of you to follow through on your obligations and admit any shortcomings in order to get better with each other. Use this as an opportunity to continue growing together and make the best and worst of those situations to maintain your home.
As you have read, couples are the foundation in having a good home. It helps to reduce personal stresses, find means to encourage and show affection, and model good behavior. If you have a different story from the above, please fill out the comments below. We would love to hear your story and hear if anything has worked for you in your family.
